Okay, I get it- in a world where our very life could be threatened by just existing; defending our identities and being taken seriously is crucial. But is it really worth putting down others?
I’ve talked about transgender and non-binary people being pressured into transition steps that they don’t want to take, but what about those people who find out they aren’t actually trans or non-binary after all?
“De-transitioning is a huge taboo subject in the trans community.”
De-transitioning is a huge taboo subject in the trans community. When someone who has come out as transgender or non-binary, and then later discover they were wrong about themselves, they revert to their former pronouns, and sometimes their old name and identify as cisgender once more.
With the efforts of those who oppose transgender and NB people living as they want, they hold up the stories of those who have de-transitioned as “proof” that being transgender is a phase or a choice. Because of this, many people who have de-transitioned are met with anger and often hatred towards them from the trans community, as they feel it makes them look “fake” and can harm people who are truly trans.
“Now, my unpopular opinion is we shouldn’t be hateful towards those people.”
Now, my unpopular opinion is we shouldn’t be hateful towards those people. Finding your identity is never easy, as those of us in the trans community know, so imagine having to do that all over again- and in some cases, with permanent changes already done. Was their transitioning done with the malicious agenda to “prove” transgender identities don’t exist? I highly doubt it.
We can’t control how the world identifies. We can’t control who discovers what about themselves. We can’t hide those who de-transition under the rug – the topic would pile up until it’s all that can be seen (as it makes us look like we’re hiding some “truth” behind smoke and mirrors.) Instead of hate and rage, which only further divides us, how about we put that energy towards reminding the world that de-transitioning is often not the case? The trans community is a large spectrum of identity and journeys of discovery- and that journey is different for everyone!